• Four Dates & Nothing

    Four Dates & Nothing

    Alex, Dear … I’ve been on four dates with a guy who is perfect on paper. He’s kind, stable, and we have great conversations. But I’m just not feeling that “lightning bolt” spark I’ve had with past boyfriends. Should I cut my losses now or keep trying? — Searching for Static A: Static, let’s get

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  • I am Fine… But He is Not

    I am Fine… But He is Not

    Alex, Dear… Whenever my partner and I have a disagreement, he shuts down and say everything is “fine,” even when it clearly isn’t. I want to solve the problem, but I can’t fight a brick wall. How do I get them to open up? — Talking to the Wall A: Wall, here is the hard

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  • Mother has a key

    Mother has a key

    Alex, Dear… My fiancé’s mother still has a key to his apartment, calls him three times a day, and is currently trying to take over our wedding planning. — Three is a Crowd ANSWER: Three is a Crowd… oh Dear, I’m going to be blunt: If you marry this man today, you are legally marrying

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  • We Are So Different

    We Are So Different

    Alex, Dear … My partner works at night and I work daytime so we just don’t have anything in common.. Answer: It’s a common misconception that sharing a  schedule is the same thing as sharing interests or a connection. When shift work creates a “passing ships in the night” dynamic, it often feels like you have nothing in common

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  • Feels like we’re just roommates

    Feels like we’re just roommates

    Alex, Dear… “We’ve been together for three years, but lately it feels like we’re just roommates. How do we get the spark back?” – bored couple Dear bored couple,  TWelcome to the “roommate phase”—it’s the place where relationships go to die if you don’t stop treating your partner like a piece of furniture. You’ve stopped

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  • My teacher asked me out

    My teacher asked me out

    Alex, Dear… My university professor asked me out on a date and I really don’t know what to do or if I am going to get in trouble? – university teacher dilema ANSWER:Dear university teacher dilema,That can feel flattering, confusing, or uncomfortable — sometimes all at once. What matters most is power dynamics and your

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